Letting Life Lead
When I was young, I was a proud member of the Harlequin book club and I have a complete set of the NormanRockwell glasses from successfully completing a series to prove it. I have gone on many binges and in my mid-twenties and early thirties (long before I had children) I was obsessed with all things attachment parenting (only I didn’t know it was called that). The first book that pulled me onto this path was Raising Our Children, Raising Ourselves. I hadn’t been in a good place that day wandering in the bookstore looking for a bit of fluff to buy or sniff to make myself feel better (nothing soothes like new book smell, except old book smell or baby head), and I turned down an aisle that I never ventured into before. The book was peeking out from the rest of its friends on the shelf and I picked it up. Then I was doomed. It wasn’t a book that changed my mind; it was a book that made normal all of the thoughts and feelings I had struggled with for years. You mean, I wasn’t bat crap mad all by myself!?
I have enough books in my possession that I could open up a small lending library (I haven’t bought a new physical book for myself in over ten years, sticking to the easier to manage digital). I tend to get into “modes” where I latch onto a topic and devour it like a foodie Instagram junkie. I was a frequent visitor to half.com when it was fresh, new, and the books were a dollar. This list is but only a fraction of some of the tomes in my diverse collection; it focuses only on attachment parenting. I own 80% of the books, have read 15% of them from local libraries, and 5% I have not had the time to read.
If you don’t have a Kindle and want digital copies of books, you can still read them by downloading this FREE reader for smartphones, tablets and computers. I have one of the original Kindles and the Kindle Fire HD6.
Unconditional Parenting: Moving from Rewards and Punishments to Love and Reason
The Myth of the Spoiled Child: Challenging the Conventional Wisdom about Children and Parenting
Punished by Rewards: The Trouble with Gold Stars, Incentive Plans, A’s, Praise, and Other Bribes
Beyond Discipline: From Compliance to Community
The Homework Myth: Why Our Kids Get Too Much of a Bad Thing
Peaceful Parent, Happy Kids: How to Stop Yelling and Start Connecting by Laura Markham
How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk by Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish
How to Talk So Teens Will Listen & Listen So Teens Will Talk by Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish
Siblings Without Rivalry: How to Help Your Children Live Together So You Can Live Too by Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish
Raising Our Children, Raising Ourselves: Transforming parent-child relationships from reaction and struggle to freedom, power and joy by Naomi Aldort
The Continuum Concept: In Search Of Happiness Lost (Classics in Human Development) by Jeane Leidloff
It’s OK Not to Share and Other Renegade Rules for Raising Competent and Compassionate Kids by Heather Shumaker
Playful ParentingLawrence J. Cohen
The Whole-Brain Child: 12 Revolutionary Strategies to Nurture Your Child’s Developing Mind by Daniel J. Siegal
No-Drama Discipline: The Whole-Brain Way to Calm the Chaos and Nurture Your Child’s Developing Mind by Daniel J. Siegal
Parenting from the Inside Out 10th Anniversary edition: How a Deeper Self-Understanding Can Help You Raise Children Who Thrive by Daniel J. Siegal
Hands Free Mama: A Guide to Putting Down the Phone, Burning the To-Do List, and Letting Go of Perfection to Grasp What Really Matters! by Rachel Macy Stafford
Redirecting Children’s Behavior by Kathryn J. Kvols
The Conscious Parent by Shefali Tsabary
Connection Parenting: Parenting Through Connection Instead of Coercion, Through Love Instead of Fear, 2nd Edition by Pam Leo
Positive Parenting from A to Z by Karen Renshaw Joslin
Sleeping With Your Baby: A Parent’s Guide to Cosleeping by James J. McKenna PhD
Parenting Without Borders: Surprising Lessons Parents Around the World Can Teach Us by Christine Gross-Loh PhD
Free-Range Kids, How to Raise Safe, Self-Reliant Children (Without Going Nuts with Worry) by Laura Skenazy
Wonder Weeks by by Hetty van de Rijt Ph.D and Frans Plooij Ph.D
Note: The Wonder Weeks is not written for the attachment parenting community so some wording may be off putting, but still a great book that explains and predicts developmental leaps that always result in fussiness, behavioral and sleep changes.
The following books were suggested to me, but I have not read them
Simplicity Parenting: Using the Extraordinary Power of Less to Raise Calmer, Happier, and More Secure Kids by Kim John Payne PhD and Lisa M. Ross
The Art of Roughhousing: Good Old Fashioned Horseplay and Why Every Kid Needs It by Anthony T. Benedet
Raising An Emotionally Intelligent Child by John Gottman PhD and Daniel Goldman
When Your Kids Push Your Buttons: And What You Can Do About It by Bonnie Harris
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